1. Educate Them About Dementia

A little education can go a long way. Share simple tips to help them understand what to expect and how to navigate the interaction:

• Dementia affects memory and communication, but emotions and connections remain intact.
• It’s okay if they don’t remember you—focus on the moment, not the past.
• Be patient and adjust to their pace.

2. Share Practical Tips for Visits

Choose the Right Setting:

• Encourage visits in a familiar space, like Mom’s home, where she feels comfortable.
• Avoid unfamiliar or overstimulating places, like busy restaurants or crowded events.

Create a Positive Atmosphere:

• Keep the environment familiar and calm—turn off the TV, minimize background noise, and ensure the room is comfortable.
• Visit during the time of day when Mom is at her best (e.g., mornings or after a meal).

Focus on the Moment:

• Help them shift their expectations. It’s about creating positive, meaningful moments, not whether Mom remembers details or recognizes them.

3. Coach Them on What to Say and Do

Avoid Memory-Dependent Questions:

• Instead of asking, “Do you remember when…?” encourage them to share stories: “I was thinking about the time we…”
• Avoid discussing recent events that Mom may not recall.

Keep Communication Simple and Positive:

• Use short sentences, a warm tone, and give Mom extra time to respond.
• Encourage laughter, smiles, and lighthearted topics.

Engage in Activities:

• Suggest shared activities that Mom enjoys, such as listening to favorite music, looking through photo albums, or baking something simple together.
• Remind them that small actions, like holding hands or sitting quietly together, are meaningful.

How a Caregiver Can Help

When Mom’s friends are unable or unwilling to visit, professional caregivers trained in dementia care can provide much-needed companionship. Unlike friends, caregivers approach each visit with a care plan and the education to navigate memory loss. They know how to:

• Foster connection without relying on memory.
• Address unmet needs, such as hunger, thirst, or discomfort.
• Create calm, engaging environments that reduce agitation and confusion.

If friends remain hesitant, inviting them to observe how a caregiver interacts with Mom can help them feel more confident about their own visits.

How to Make Leaving Easier

For both friends and caregivers, departures can be difficult. Here’s how to leave in a way that minimizes sadness or anxiety:

• Focus on Happy Hellos, Not Sad Goodbyes: Start with warm greetings, like “I’m so happy to see you!” or “I’ve missed you!”
• Use Gentle Transitions: Instead of a direct goodbye, say, “I’m stepping out for a bit, but I’ll see you again soon.”
• Mirror Positivity: Emotions are contagious—leave with a smile and reassurance, and avoid showing sadness or hesitation.

Final Thoughts: A Little Effort Makes a Big Difference

Friendship doesn’t need to fade with dementia. With education, preparation, and understanding, you can help Mom’s friends feel empowered to reconnect in meaningful ways. And when friendships need additional support, professional caregivers can step in to ensure that your mother is surrounded by kindness, warmth, and companionship.

Every moment of connection, no matter how small, contributes to your mother’s well-being. Thank you for being a champion of her forever friendships even when we start forgetting—and for supporting her journey with love and care.

Home Care Partners Brings Memory Care Home Call today to visit with our Certified Dementia Practitioners, Karla and Haily are here to help 402-780-1211.

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